These are two honorable men in the news right now.
Former President Jimmy Carter is 98 and has had some health
issues. The Jimmy Carter Foundation announced yesterday that he is entering
hospice care and prefers to live out his days at home with family. There won’t
be any more hospitalizations. I love Jimmy Carter and so I’m sad, even though
he’s had a full life.
Jimmy Carter is the embodiment of what it means to be a
Christian. He is a kind, loving man who helped broker peace during his presidency
and afterward. He and his wife Rosalyn both volunteered for Habitat for
Humanity. The organization builds homes alongside low-income people who want to
buy a house but can’t afford it. He and Rosalyn both were actively involved in
home building into their nineties. One of my favorite pictures of Carter was
after he’d taken a fall (in his nineties) and still showed up to work, black eye,
and all.
Even though he had some successes as President, he’s mainly
seen as ineffective. I believe it’s because he wouldn’t play Washington
politics. Members of Congress didn’t like that and so it was difficult for him
to get his agenda passed. I think he
wasn’t effective because he was too much a Christian and unwilling to get into
the dirt with political players. The
hostage crisis in Iran was the straw that broke the camel’s back, in my
opinion. He made an attempt to rescue the hostages, but the plan blew up with helicopters
that crashed. He was really bashed for that.
I remember the fallout when he admitted to a reporter that
yes, even though a devout Christian and happily married, he’d still “lusted in
his heart.” How the critics went bonkers over that. I remember thinking, what’s
the big deal? We are all human. I’m sure we all have “lusted” in our hearts
over someone or something. So what? You’d have thought he’d said something
catastrophic.
Compare that to the behavior of today’s “christian”
nationalists. They lie, cheat, threaten, bully, and promote violence. I don’t
know who they think they’re following but it sure isn’t New Testament Jesus. NT
Jesus was all about feeding & caring for the poor, sick, and homeless. He
was all about protecting children. He was all about inclusion, welcoming and
sheltering immigrants. These “christian” nationalists seem to be all about neglect,
oppression, suppression, discrimination, and corruption. They cater to the 1%
of the population who are very rich and powerful.
Jimmy Carter is one of my heroes. I am sorry to lose him because there are so
few heroes left these days. I am very
proud that my first vote in a presidential race went to Jimmy Carter. I am glad
I was at the inauguration and saw Jimmy Carter, hand in hand with Rosalyn,
walking down the street to the Capitol instead of riding in a limousine. I never
met Jimmy Carter, but I am grateful he’s been a part of my life. God bless
Jimmy Carter.
Speaking of how few heroes there are out there, I also
wanted to acknowledge Pennsylvania Senator John Fetterman. I don’t know much
about him other than the fact he had such a fun, colorful campaign last year despite
suffering a stroke. Recently, he checked himself into Walter Reed Hospital on
the advice of his physician. He is suffering from severe depression. He is a
hero because of his courage in acknowledging his depression and need for
treatment.
Depression is still stigmatizing. I have had low lying
depression since my teen years. It used to be called dysthymia but now is
called MDD. When I began to seek treatment back in the 1970s, I kept it all
secret. There was (still is) a lot of misunderstanding about depression. In
those days it seemed to mean “crazy”. I don’t know if anyone remembers Sen.
Thomas Eagleton or former Gov. Mike Dukakis but both suffered depressive
episodes. And when that became public, their political careers tanked.
When I was working as a unit secretary in the mid-1970s, I’d
become friends with my bosses. One of them noticed my upper eyelids drooped. It
was a side effect of the anti-depressant I was taking. I took her into my
confidence and explained. I’ll never forget the look of horror she gave me. It
was like she thought I was contagious. She said, “I don’t want to know about
it!”
I didn’t confide in anyone else, not for years. It wasn’t
until a psychiatrist explained that it was a biological problem, not a problem
of character or behavior. My brain wasn’t producing enough serotonin, dopamine,
or epinephrine and so even on my “good days” my mood wouldn’t match those of
others whose brains did make enough of those feel-good hormones. I didn’t have
to feel ashamed and hide my dark secret.
I am also not alone. There are so many of us with
depression. Some are open about it and others are not. There’s still misunderstanding,
and a stigma attached to depression.
John Fetterman is a hero because he chose to do what was
best for his health and not be secretive about it. By being open about his
depression, we can be educated further about what it is, the different types, symptoms,
and treatments. People who have depression but are suffering in silence might
feel encouraged to seek help.
I can say what untreated depression feels like: imagine
being down a deep, dark well with slippery sides. You can get a purchase to try
and climb out of the well, but you can look up and see the sun shining. But the
sunshine doesn’t bring any light into that dark well. There’s no way out. It’s
all hopeless. Self-harm thoughts are intrusive.
I have a cocktail of medications I take to boost all those
hormones lacking in my brain. I haven’t been down that well in years. I will
have to take these meds forever in order to stay out of the well.
If that ends up being the case for Senator Fetterman, so
what? It doesn’t make him weak-willed or lacking in character. He’s one of the good guys. We should all
support him and wish him well. I think he can serve our country well. Good on
you, Senator Fetterman!